Dipped into David Richo's " how to be an adult "
A psychologically healthy person needs the sustenance of the 5 A's
ATTENTION
ACCEPTANCE
APPRECIATION
AFFECTION
ALLOWING
ALCHEMY is the transformation of something into its opposite and happens in a container. A vessel , a crucible in which the lead of the ego can be transformed into the gold of the Higher Self. *thinks what a fantastic analogy *
Our identity cannot grow in isolation , because we are diological by nature
Only in the arms of someone can the first ' I am ' be pronounced, or rather risked "
D.W. Winnicott , Psychiatrist
Jung says that the longing for the spiritual is as strong in us as the desire for sex. I say, that authentic soul- to- soul- heart- to- heart -sex IS to experience the spiritual, the Divine .
The recurrent need for " the perfect partner" is a strong signal from our psyche that we have work to do on ourselves. For the healthy adult there is no such thing as a perfect partner except temporarily or momentarily. No one source of happiness exists , nor can a partner make life perfect . A relationship cannot be expected to fulfill all our needs ; it only shows them to us and makes a modest contribution to their fulfillment . We ask: ( I ask ) Could it be that I would not have learned what I needed to learn if I had met the perfect partner ?
The perfect partner is the mirage we see after crossing the desert of insufficient love
WOW .. *mira ponders awhile *