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Posts archive for: 17 September, 2008
  • Unspeakable horrors of FMG

    " The Ugly Hand that Maims " painting by Wande George.

    FMG- female genital mutilation - female circumcision.

    It really makes my blood boil that this is still going on in our day and age and that it often it is women doing this to their daughters !!!! UNBELIEVABLE !!!

    I happened to mention this subject to Haley, the 18 year old girl who was staying with me from Austin, Texas . She's a smart girl , but she knew NOTHING of this, so I fear that many don't know that this is going on,

    One woman describes what she had to endure :

    I had my Circumcision done when I was 7 years old.

    When I was little and knew nothing about it. The procedures I had to endure are:
    1. Set in a chair, (legs open) and let a midwife (da3ia in Arabic) cut me and then stitched me while three other women hold me back.
    2. For about two weeks I wasn’t allowed to run or play any sports.
    3. Using the bathroom was painful for about 3 days. After the process was done women and children came to my house ate candy, drank juice, said Mubark (congratulation) and if I was luck I got money.

    Circumcision in Sudan is treated just like a wedding, graduation or even better then a Birthday.

    Thank you for your concern for the women who endure this procedure, it means a lot to them to see that the world cares and campaigns for their basic rights.

    If you are on FB , please join the group “2 Million people against Female Circumcision {FGM: Female Genital Mutilation”. Two million is the number of women who are circumcised each year {around 6000 a day}.

    Hopefully by the end of 2008 we can have two million members. The possible side effects of female genital mutilation are numerous. They include urine retention, haemorrhaging, infection, pain, menstrual complications, infertility, and loss of sexual pleasure or inability to perform sexual intercourse, death and psychological disturbances. In some cases, babies have been seriously harmed during prolonged labor, due to circumcision, resulting in brain damage or death of the child please have a heart Join and invite others. This is for the four to thirteen year old females who can’t make that decision.

    Thank you.
    This group was created on the 15th of January,2008

    ~Consequences of FGM
    Depending on the degree of mutilation, FGM can have a number of short-term health implications:
    1. severe pain and shock
    2. infection
    3. urine retention
    4. injury to adjacent tissues
    5. immediate fatal haemorrhaging
    ~Long-term implications can entail:
    1. extensive damage of the external reproductive system
    2. uterus, vaginal and pelvic infections
    3. cysts and neuromas
    4. increased risk of Vesico Vaginal Fistula
    5. complications in pregnancy and child birth
    6. psychological damage
    7. sexual dysfunction
    8. difficulties in menstruation

    In addition to these health consequences there are considerable psycho-sexual, psychological and social consequences of FGM.

    ~Justifications of FGM
    The roots of FGM are complex and numerous; indeed, it has not been exactly possible to determine when or where the tradition of FGM originated.

    The justifications given for the practise are multiple and reflect the ideological and historical situation of the societies in which it has developed. Reasons cited generally relate to tradition, power inequalities and the ensuing compliance of women to the dictates of their communities

    Reasons include:
    1. custom and tradition
    2. religion; in the mistaken belief that it is a religious requirement
    3. preservation of virginity/chastity
    4. social acceptance, especially for marriage
    5. hygiene and cleanliness
    6. increasing sexual pleasure for the male
    7. family honour
    8. a sense of belonging to the group and conversely the fear of social exclusion
    9. enhancing fertility
    10. a social weapon of war

    source: http://www.forwarduk.org.uk/key-issues/fgm

    THANK YOU !

    X

  • Wot I 'ad for lunch

    Shredded cabbage
    Shredded onion
    Grated carrot
    Salmon cut in small cubes
    a few cloves of garlic

    Method

    Stir fry veggies
    Chuck in cubed salmon

    Chuck in marinade consisting of :

    lime juice
    water
    soya
    honey
    herb salt
    chili salt

    Finally , drizzle with sesame seed oil.

    Consume !

    :)

    XXX

  • Candle for a departed soul

    A candle for a friend's old father who passed away peacefully at 5 a.m. this morning.

    Theirs was a turbulent challenging relationship. His last week had been full of ranting and raving as he appeared to be expressing and releasing all his pent up rage and frustration.

    The past couple of night had been peaceful though . Last night was the only night that my friend had not spent at his side and of course he'd taken  the chance to slip away. I've heard this happens often.

    Blessings of love and light to all concerned.
    Peace prevails in all hearts and souls.
    So it is.

    X

  • Wrapping things up in words

    I keep trying to wrap things up in words and find it really difficult, especially when it comes to thoughts and feelings. Daily blogging has helped me enormously as well as commenting on posts and reading feedback.

    My need for approval is great as is my need for permission.

    " Is it ok ? "
    " Is this all right ? "
    " How's the food ? "
    " Is it alright if I .... ? "

    I'm sure this comes from inadequate mirroring as a child, not hearing things in words " Yes , that's fine .. you did a good job....oh this is delicious ..." etc etc

    Now I am not blaming anyone in my past - it is as it is , but I am learning to understand bits and pieces about myself and others and realise how similar we all are to each other.

    If only I was better at wrapping things up in words.
    But then even people with LOTS of words have problems self - expressing.

    " If you really knew me , you'd know that ...... "
    and then I realise , HOW can you possibly know me if I don't show you that side of me ? How much of myself am I willing to share with you and feel safe and keep my integrity and self- respect ?

    THANK YOU all my friends and bloggers for sharing your bits and pieces with me .. your stories ... your thoughts .. your feelings , comments , criticisms and feedback. I feel humbled , moved and grateful .

    *end of mumbles .....it's a wrap "

    :wave:

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